Before I respond, I think De Maria’s objection makes perfect sense, given his Roman Catholic perspective.
The Catholic perspective is not the one you described. I have corrected your straw man and provided the true Catholic perspective.
And to complicate matters for the Reformed position, I must admit at the outset that I am unaware of any passage that specifically says “God died only for the elect.” That said, what follows is a response to both De Maria’s take onRomans 5:6 and De Maria’s request for a passage that teaches that God died for the elect. Let’s first begin with Romans 5:6
Romans 5:6 in Context
The problem is your presupposition. You start from the erroneous premise that Jesus died only for the elect. Therefore, when St. Paul says, “He died for US…” you read into it that He “only” died for those of us who chose to accept His sacrifice. But Rom 5:6
is the correction to that error in case anyone were to fall into it.
St. Paul says, “He died for US…” But in Rom 5:6
, he clarifies that Jesus died for the ungodly. That means Jesus died for all creation. He died for the world. He died for us because He died for all. We are not excluded when we way He died for all. We are included in that number. We are a subset of that number.